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Why We Need to Believe In Other People

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Gentlemen,

Every day I battle depression. Some days I lose. Some days I win. I’m not weak. My biceps are larger than the thighs on most of the girls I’ve dated. But sometimes, life can hit us with shit that is stronger than ourselves — physically and mentally. We become so paralyzed by self-doubt and a lack of faith that good things can happen to us that we lose focus and limit ourselves from our potential. We lose focus on what’s really important, which isn’t believing in ourselves, but believing in other people.

I’ve come to realize more often than not, on the days I win, it’s because of the people around me who lift me up and show me that they believe in me.

When we’re faced with situations are that stronger than us, turning to people who believe in us and knowing we have support can be the guiding light to success. Plus, thinking about the people in our lives who are important to us will give us that little extra to keep going.

I’ve decided to be less selfish and think about other people in general, not just myself, and not just those close to me in my life.

Once I stopped thinking about myself, my mind and my heart was more open to love and deeper inclined to accept and understand people.

Think about it. Life doesn’t give anybody a break. We’re all hit with a shit storm of undeserved pain and suffering in some way.

Since life can be so difficult, why would we want to make it more difficult for one another?

I think our culture has stopped thinking about others. Most people think about themselves.

Ask your neighbor how their day is going the next time you see them, even if you have to yell across the street.

Make conversation with the person in line behind you at the grocery store and ask them how they’re doing.

Call that old friend who you got into a fight with forever ago and let them know you forgive them and check in to see how they’re doing.

Let people know you’re thinking of them. When you dish out love, it’s appreciated. When you dish out love, it’s infectious. Even if you aren’t loving yourself that day — and we all have days like that — the love you give out will bounce back and affect the way you love yourself.

I know, this shit sounds corny. But it’s so simple because it’s just the truth. There’s no way we’re put here on this planet with billions of other people so we can be selfish and hate other people. There’s just no way we were put here to go to work, pay our bills, and die. I believe we’re here to care about each other.

I don’t think I would have realized this had the great people in my life not given up on me, forcing me to realize the beauty in other people and the importance of their role in your life. To them, I say, thank you. And to the people who are thinking about giving up, don’t! People believe in you.

I believe in you.

From Gentleman to Gentleman,

Joe

 

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Watch This Solider Dunk for Donuts

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Jason Ciesielski is a Field Artillery Soldier in the Army National Guard and an athlete making his mark on social media. When he’s not busy serving his country, the 20-year-old can be seen on his Instagram and Facebook page showing off high box jumps, dead lifts and freestyle dunks.

“I want to empower people to be the best, strongest versions of themselves,” he says.

Jason recently went Live on Facebook with Better than the Weekend to dunk while treating himself to one of his guilty pleasures — Dunkin’ Donuts. He picked out four of his favorite fried cakes of sweetened dough and made sure he dunked before indulging his sweet tooth. Moral of the story: You can still be fit and eat what you want, as long as you work for it.

Watch and see how he did. Ladies, you’re welcome. 😉

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Real men earn their donuts 🏅Ask Jason Tyler Ciesielski

Posted by Better than the Weekend on Wednesday, April 18, 2018

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How to Stop Being a Pussy and Be the Lion You Were Born to Be

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Gentleman,

We are hard-wired to be lions; to go after something we want.

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It’s in our nature to be a total savage when chasing after our desires — despite the consequences. In modern culture, where social media is redefining our lifestyle, we seem to be transforming into this fear-based robot who stays in their comfort zone and doesn’t reach too far.

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My name is Jesse Mundt. I’m a 23-year-old realtor from New Jersey. I’m not worried about remembering Harambe, learning the fucking Juju dance or getting blackout wasted. I’m focused on hitting my goals. I want to see other millennials get as excited as I am about hitting their goals. That’s why I’m here to offer some advice on how to break this formula of being a pussy and finally be the lion you were born to be.

Don’t be a dick. Hear me out.

You’re probably a lot like me, actually. I want to be rich and successful.

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But before we move forward, I believe we have to go backward.

First step in being a fucking lion is to sit down and be your 6-year-old self again — this time with some intellect. Ask yourself these questions: What do you want your life to look like if you couldn’t fail? How much money do you want to make? How big do you want your house to be? What’s your dream car?

Be specific. Your answers should give you butterflies and chills just thinking about them.

Next, dust off the creativity and imagination of your childhood self and dream BIG. Imagine your adult life if your childhood dreams became a reality. (Remember, you only limit your own thoughts. So go fucking wild while dreaming what your life could be like.)

Lastly, find a mentor. Someone who has what you want and is willing to teach you how to get it. Keep in mind, you can’t teach what you don’t have so be careful who you take advice from, especially those close to you. (For example, if you want to make $100,000 each year but the person teaching you makes $60,000 a year, it’s impossible. You get it.)

Being a gentleman isn’t limited to how you respect a woman. A true gentleman works on himself and constantly strives for growth. It’s not only our duty as gentleman, but as human beings.
That’s how he become a fearless lion and takes on the world.

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Are you willing to give up your comfort zone to go up?

I am.

From one gentleman to another,

Jesse

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How to Be Philanthropic Without Breaking the Bank

You don’t have be a celebrity with a $1 million check to make an impact on someone else.

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Philanthropy became an essential part of my life during my fraternity days. Believe it or not, giving back to the community is a key element in Greek culture.

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Sure, most of our money went toward books and beer, but it was important to us to spend a generous amount of our time being charitable. Participating in philanthropy, as I learned, benefits underprivileged people, helps promote the reputation of yourself or your organization, and just makes you feel good.

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Better than the Weekend decided to get involved and give something back by spending a morning at St. Francis of Assisi Kitchen in Scranton, PA. From 8:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. me and two of my interns, Justine and Dana, prepped and served lunch to guests in need of a hot and nutritious meal.

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You don’t have be a celebrity with a $1 million check to make an impact on someone else. And it doesn’t have to be National Philanthropy Day to give back. Here are some ways you can be philanthropic without breaking the bank.

1. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, nursing home or children’s hospital.

At the soup kitchen, some of the people who came to get a meal thanked us individually for being their to help them. That feeling they felt didn’t cost a penny on our ends.

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2. Take some cookies to the local police or fire departments.

Let people who risk their lives to serve and protect us know they’re appreciated it. It doesn’t cost a lot of money to make some cookies and it doesn’t take much time. It’ll likely make their day!

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3. Invite someone for a walk.

When you see a friend or co-worker stressed out, let them know you’re there for them by inviting them to do something that can get their mind off whatever is bothering them. A person doesn’t have to be homeless and living under a bridge to need someone to reach out to them.

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4. Listen!

We’re so often caught up in our own lives that we don’t always take the time to listen to someone who is going through something. Making someone feel heard and worth being listened to can make them feel better.

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5. Pay for the person behind you.

It could be a cup of coffee at Starbucks or the toll on a road trip. Spotting the person behind you in line will surprise them, make their day and remind them there’s good in the world.

That’s what philanthropy is all about.

Cheers to putting some good out there.

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